Know Thy Self

A small piece of advice for those how seek to serve.

KNOW Thy Self.

Journeying through the world of Bdsm can be an exciting adventure, you will learn much about others, and about yourself, however, before embarking on that journey, take time to reflect on your starting point.

Know yourself.
Know what it is that you want.
Know what you DO NOT desire.

All these things change as we grow and learn, but knowing yourself, knowing your limits knowing your value is hugely important.

How can you offer yourself to someone to serve them, if you don't know what you are good at. How can you assist your Mistress if you have no skills to offer her.

Think about that BEFORE you offer yourself into service.

Strange But True

As a result of my most recent post, I have received a number of responses from subbies and sissies who know me who have expressed great concern that the post about attention seeking was in reference to their behaviour. I have been astounded by this.

I believe that I am some who does not pull her punchs, rest assured dear reader, if I was bothered by someone behaviour, I would make comment to them directly. They would be in no doubt what so ever that their attention seeking behaviour was not acceptable to me

The attention seeking post expressed my thought about such behaviour in general. It is an insight into my own likes and in that case dislikes. I realize that not all Mistress feel as I do, nor should they. We are individuals, no two Mistresses are the same, no two Mistresses will view behaviour in exactly the same way. That is as it should be.

This is MY blog, these are MY opinions. Anyone has the right to disagree.

Attention Seeking

There is a habit that some submissives display that I find particularly disappointing. That is Attention seeking behaviour. What is attention seeking behaviour. Think of the last time you were in a supermarket and saw a toddler whining and tugging at their mothers sleeve. THAT is attention seeking.

"Mistress I caaaaaaaaaaaaaaan't" is attention seeking.

'Mistress I adore you I worship you, you are the sun and the moon, you are my all you and my everything, ..........." is attention seeking.

Misbehaving is attention seeking.

Being a drain rather than of service is attention seeking.

I find it amazing that again and again a submissive will try this type of behaviour in an effort to gain attention. For me such behaviour deserves only one response. Being ignored. If it continues the submissive is not worthy of the attention they crave and should I believe be banished until they learn to behave.

Harsh, perhaps, but they WILL learn or be very miserable.

Often Amazed

I am often amazed by the total lack of simple good manners and courtesy shown to me in e-mails by prospective clients, eager submissives and desperate slave. These are people who wish me to pay them some attention and yet this is a sample of an actual email I recently received;

“I need a very hard spanking in frost of every one please E mail me @ ………. “
(I have removed the address to avoid embarrassing the sender)

That was the total extent of the communication. No greeting, No name given. What can anyone sending such an email hope to gain?

Here is another example;

“I want to serve you. I want to lick your boots and be owned by you. I am willing to relocate. I want to be a total slave.”

Again, there is no greeting, no name, no respect shown, no graciousness no consideration shown. Again I ask the question, what can anyone sending such an email hope to gain.

In both cases they gain NOTHING. The delete button is my friend and I do not hesitate to use it.

A word to the wise. I don’t mind if your emails are not highly eloquent, I don’t mind if English is not your first language and so your grammar is not all it could be, but I do mind when people writing to me do not put a greeting on there emails, EG Dear Mistress Strict
I do mind when they fail to sign a name in closing.
I do mind when they fail to spell check their letters.
I do mind when they fail to use the subject line.

A further suggestion:-
When writing to a Domme seeking to be accepted into her service, do not make your correspondence all about YOU. Rather, write explaining why you would be of great service to the lady. List your skills explaining how they would benefit her. Make sure your focus is on the Mistress and NOT on yourself.

Be polite,
Be respectful and
Be considerate.

Making Mistress Laugh

One of my sweet slaves, took it upon himself to make my day a little more pleasant by sharing some jokes with me. One in particular made me laugh out loud, so I thought I would share his good work with you all.

A married couple, in their early 60s, was celebrating their 32nd wedding anniversary at a quiet, romantic little restaurant.Suddenly, a tiny beautiful Fairy appeared on their table.She said: 'For being such an exemplary married couple and especially this time, I will grant you each a wish.''Oh, said the wife, I want to travel around the World with my darling husband' .The fairy waved her magic wand ; and - poof! - two tickets for the Queen Elizabeth II luxury liner and ten thousand dollars appeared in her hands.Then it was the husband's turn.He thought for a minute and said: 'Well, this is all very romantic, but an opportunity like this will never come again. So I'm going with my mind and not my heart'.I'm sorry my love, but my wish is to have a wife 30 years younger than me.The wife and the Fairy were shocked and disappointed. But a wish is a wish.So, the Fairy waved her magic wand, and - Poof! the husband became 92 years old.
The Moral of the story: Men who can be ungrateful bastards should remember: Fairies are Female.

He also sent his image, which I also liked ALOT!!!

Service to your Mistress can take many forms, there are of course the 'classics', the foot rub, the massage, the preparation of a special meal, but service can to many many different forms. Lightening the load with a laugh is a wonderful form of service.

Think about your Mistress, how can you lighten her load? What can you do, without being asked, without expecting a reward, what can you do to make her life more pleasant?

Why not go and do it?

Mistress Strict

Orgasm Denial

It is not uncommon for subs and their Dommes to report that the submissive loses the compelling desire to serve and obey after they have been granted the privilege to reaching orgasm. One obvious solution to this problem is the complete denial of the right to orgasm; however, studies show that for good prostate health, a male should ejaculate at least once every two weeks. No Domme wants her boy to risk his health, so the solution is prostate milking or massage.

Massaging the prostate forces seminal fluid and sperm past the valves in the ejaculatory ducts, and empty the prostate (which discharges directly into the urethra). If there is no stimulation given to the penis for a brief time before the prostate massage begins, draining of the ejaculate into the urethra will not trigger orgasm. Once ejaculate appears, it will help to empty the urethra by running a finger firmly up the underside of the penis from the root to the head, pushing the ejaculate in front of it.

Once a sufficient amount of ejaculatory fluid has been drained, insufficient fluid pressure to trigger the ejaculatory reflex will remain, and no amount of penile stimulation will result in orgasm until the fluid glands are recharged. This may take several hours to several days.

How long to go between milkings will have to be gauged by experiment. A particularly effective way of increasing an orgasm deprived male's sense of sexual frustration and thus his desire to serve and please Mistress between prostate milkings is to you’re your boy masturbate himself once a day every day to just short of orgasm, then install him into a chastity device.

Enjoy these wicked thoughts.
Mistress Strict

Strict Weight loss

Congratulations to my sissy girl Michelle

After months of work. After months of dedication and sweat Michelle has at last reached her goal weight and she looks FABULOUS. I am so proud of my Michelle for all the work she has done.

Changing her body shape was a goal she had asked me to assist her with as part of her distance sissy training. When she started with me she was only just able to squeeze into a size 20 skirt. Now she is looking so lady like and lovely in a new size 16 shape. She now has an excuse to buy a whole new wardrobe of clothes. What sissy wouldn't love that. I'd love to be able to post a pic of her with her new look, but unfortunately (as many of you will understand, she is a little 'shy')

Master Jay a wonderfully skilled Dom and personal trainer is a dear friend of mine and he designed a diet and exercise program for Michelle. Every week she would weigh and measure herself for us. Even though she is in North America and I am here in Australia, she was constantly monitored and her progress reviewed. The Internet offers so many amazing tools.

Thank you Master Jay for your dedication and skill. Michelle has reached her goal and I couldn't be more proud.

Well done my girl. Keep up the GREAT work.