Here is another interesting letter. It again addresses a common issue. I hope it and my answer again provoke thought and conversation within my readers communities

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Mistress Strict,

I hope this email finds you in good health and in
life. I have recently discovered the BDSM community and find
myself in a position that I have no one to ask questions to and get real
answers. I hope you can help. I have a couple of slaves that have thrown
themselves at my feet and I am super excited about it except I don't know
what to do with them. They have offered up house work & yard work. Never
having had a male offer to do those things is strange to me ........but what do slaves generally expect in return? Or what do I give them in return.
I don't want to use and abuse my slave unless he
asks so a little guidance would be so nice!

Mistress (in-training)

My dear Trainee,
From the very outset I must stress that the things I am about to say are only one Mistress's opinion. Ask several different Dommes the same questions, and you WILL get several different answers. With that caveat clearly in place I will proceed.

My first comments have to be about safety. YOUR safety.

I have no idea where these 'slaves' who have 'thrown themselves at your feet' have come from, but my first question is, Do you know them well enough and trust them sufficiently to invite them into your home? For a moment remove the D's aspect from the situation. Are these men that you would normally want visiting you at home alone? If you are not 100% sure then don't!!! Meet them first in a public location. For a coffee perhaps. Find out what it is they want.

Some who call themselves 'slave' are sexually turned on by being ordered to do manual labor for a dominant women. Are you prepared for that? Some slaves desire only to do your house work in return for your punishing them physically for doing a 'poor job'. Are you prepared for that? Do you know how to punish someone without causing physical damage?

There are so many wonderful opportunities to explore within the world of Ds. It must be remembered that the 'community' is made up of so many different people, each with their own kink. Communication is the key to any relationship. A Ds relationship is no exception. Talk to these 'slaves' Discuss with them what it is they REALLY desire.

I hope that helps.

Mistress Strict

Often Amazed

I am often amazed by the total lack of simple good manners and courtesy shown to me in e-mails by prospective clients, eager submissives and desperate slave. These are people who wish me to pay them some attention and yet this is a sample of an actual email I recently received;

“I need a very hard spanking in frost of every one please E mail me @ ………. “
(I have removed the address to avoid embarrassing the sender)

That was the total extent of the communication. No greeting, No name given. What can anyone sending such an email hope to gain?

Here is another example;

“I want to serve you. I want to lick your boots and be owned by you. I am willing to relocate. I want to be a total slave.”

Again, there is no greeting, no name, no respect shown, no graciousness no consideration shown. Again I ask the question, what can anyone sending such an email hope to gain.

In both cases they gain NOTHING. The delete button is my friend and I do not hesitate to use it.

A word to the wise. I don’t mind if your emails are not highly eloquent, I don’t mind if English is not your first language and so your grammar is not all it could be, but I do mind when people writing to me do not put a greeting on there emails, EG Dear Mistress Strict
I do mind when they fail to sign a name in closing.
I do mind when they fail to spell check their letters.
I do mind when they fail to use the subject line.

A further suggestion:-
When writing to a Domme seeking to be accepted into her service, do not make your correspondence all about YOU. Rather, write explaining why you would be of great service to the lady. List your skills explaining how they would benefit her. Make sure your focus is on the Mistress and NOT on yourself.

Be polite,
Be respectful and
Be considerate.

Making Mistress Laugh

One of my sweet slaves, took it upon himself to make my day a little more pleasant by sharing some jokes with me. One in particular made me laugh out loud, so I thought I would share his good work with you all.

A married couple, in their early 60s, was celebrating their 32nd wedding anniversary at a quiet, romantic little restaurant.Suddenly, a tiny beautiful Fairy appeared on their table.She said: 'For being such an exemplary married couple and especially this time, I will grant you each a wish.''Oh, said the wife, I want to travel around the World with my darling husband' .The fairy waved her magic wand ; and - poof! - two tickets for the Queen Elizabeth II luxury liner and ten thousand dollars appeared in her hands.Then it was the husband's turn.He thought for a minute and said: 'Well, this is all very romantic, but an opportunity like this will never come again. So I'm going with my mind and not my heart'.I'm sorry my love, but my wish is to have a wife 30 years younger than me.The wife and the Fairy were shocked and disappointed. But a wish is a wish.So, the Fairy waved her magic wand, and - Poof! the husband became 92 years old.
The Moral of the story: Men who can be ungrateful bastards should remember: Fairies are Female.

He also sent his image, which I also liked ALOT!!!

Service to your Mistress can take many forms, there are of course the 'classics', the foot rub, the massage, the preparation of a special meal, but service can to many many different forms. Lightening the load with a laugh is a wonderful form of service.

Think about your Mistress, how can you lighten her load? What can you do, without being asked, without expecting a reward, what can you do to make her life more pleasant?

Why not go and do it?

Mistress Strict