Here is another interesting letter. It again addresses a common issue. I hope it and my answer again provoke thought and conversation within my readers communities

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Mistress Strict,

I hope this email finds you in good health and in
life. I have recently discovered the BDSM community and find
myself in a position that I have no one to ask questions to and get real
answers. I hope you can help. I have a couple of slaves that have thrown
themselves at my feet and I am super excited about it except I don't know
what to do with them. They have offered up house work & yard work. Never
having had a male offer to do those things is strange to me ........but what do slaves generally expect in return? Or what do I give them in return.
I don't want to use and abuse my slave unless he
asks so a little guidance would be so nice!

Mistress (in-training)

My dear Trainee,
From the very outset I must stress that the things I am about to say are only one Mistress's opinion. Ask several different Dommes the same questions, and you WILL get several different answers. With that caveat clearly in place I will proceed.

My first comments have to be about safety. YOUR safety.

I have no idea where these 'slaves' who have 'thrown themselves at your feet' have come from, but my first question is, Do you know them well enough and trust them sufficiently to invite them into your home? For a moment remove the D's aspect from the situation. Are these men that you would normally want visiting you at home alone? If you are not 100% sure then don't!!! Meet them first in a public location. For a coffee perhaps. Find out what it is they want.

Some who call themselves 'slave' are sexually turned on by being ordered to do manual labor for a dominant women. Are you prepared for that? Some slaves desire only to do your house work in return for your punishing them physically for doing a 'poor job'. Are you prepared for that? Do you know how to punish someone without causing physical damage?

There are so many wonderful opportunities to explore within the world of Ds. It must be remembered that the 'community' is made up of so many different people, each with their own kink. Communication is the key to any relationship. A Ds relationship is no exception. Talk to these 'slaves' Discuss with them what it is they REALLY desire.

I hope that helps.

Mistress Strict

A question without an answer.

Below is a very common type of letter I receive. I wonder how YOU would reply?

Good evening Mistress Strict. I have long had a fantasy of putting myself in the control of a dominant woman. I am married; my wife would never understand this. I don't really know what would be involved and what boundaries are set if any. I am really quite nervous but excited at the prospect. Sorry I'm not trying to waste your time, I would just like to know a little bit more about what is involved.

Hope you can help

A Letters reply

Greetings,

The other day I received the letter below. It is not the first of this type of email I have received, nor to I suspect will it be the last. I have decided to post it here, with my reply attach. The reply is of course only THIS Mistress's opinion. I hope that it might provoke some discussion and thought.

Hello mistress, and thank you for making the opportunity
and privilege of sending you a message so easy. As I have become older (
now 37) the need to serve and be controlled by a dominant women is
overwhelming. I have had some relationships with some wonderful ladies,
but cannot connect or get turned on at all. .................................................................. ...................Have you had any slaves like me, and if so what is the future if
I do not find a dominant women like yourself?

MY REPLY

In answer to your question, "Have I had any slaves like me, and if so what is the future if I do not find a dominant women like yourself?" my answer is yes. I have had the pleasure of being served by ones like you, I in fact have the great privilege of having a boy whom I cherish and who serves me well. I feel sure that there were times in his life when he felt like you. The desire to serve being strong within him and yet having no one to serve. A sub without a Mistress is like a lost soul, but there is aways hope. Just as in the vanilla world, one must meet many people before one meets a like minded spirit.

I would suggest that at 37 your search for the right Mistress is just beginning. Enjoy that journey. While you search for the right one, make every moment count. Dedicate yourself to learning HOW to serve. Ensure that when you do find 'the one' that you have the skills and dedication necessary to be as valuable to her as my boy is to me.

This is just one Mistress's opinion, but I believe that the gift of submission is a precious one. Don't give it away lightly. A Mistress must be worthy of your gifts just as you must be worth of her attention. Many claim the title of Mistress, not all are worthy of it, to take on a submissive is a responsibility, and an honour. There is no rush. Talk, mix with like minded people. Learn what is it that you desire.

I hope my words are of help.

Mistress Strict

Know Thy Self

A small piece of advice for those how seek to serve.

KNOW Thy Self.

Journeying through the world of Bdsm can be an exciting adventure, you will learn much about others, and about yourself, however, before embarking on that journey, take time to reflect on your starting point.

Know yourself.
Know what it is that you want.
Know what you DO NOT desire.

All these things change as we grow and learn, but knowing yourself, knowing your limits knowing your value is hugely important.

How can you offer yourself to someone to serve them, if you don't know what you are good at. How can you assist your Mistress if you have no skills to offer her.

Think about that BEFORE you offer yourself into service.

Strange But True

As a result of my most recent post, I have received a number of responses from subbies and sissies who know me who have expressed great concern that the post about attention seeking was in reference to their behaviour. I have been astounded by this.

I believe that I am some who does not pull her punchs, rest assured dear reader, if I was bothered by someone behaviour, I would make comment to them directly. They would be in no doubt what so ever that their attention seeking behaviour was not acceptable to me

The attention seeking post expressed my thought about such behaviour in general. It is an insight into my own likes and in that case dislikes. I realize that not all Mistress feel as I do, nor should they. We are individuals, no two Mistresses are the same, no two Mistresses will view behaviour in exactly the same way. That is as it should be.

This is MY blog, these are MY opinions. Anyone has the right to disagree.

Attention Seeking

There is a habit that some submissives display that I find particularly disappointing. That is Attention seeking behaviour. What is attention seeking behaviour. Think of the last time you were in a supermarket and saw a toddler whining and tugging at their mothers sleeve. THAT is attention seeking.

"Mistress I caaaaaaaaaaaaaaan't" is attention seeking.

'Mistress I adore you I worship you, you are the sun and the moon, you are my all you and my everything, ..........." is attention seeking.

Misbehaving is attention seeking.

Being a drain rather than of service is attention seeking.

I find it amazing that again and again a submissive will try this type of behaviour in an effort to gain attention. For me such behaviour deserves only one response. Being ignored. If it continues the submissive is not worthy of the attention they crave and should I believe be banished until they learn to behave.

Harsh, perhaps, but they WILL learn or be very miserable.

Often Amazed

I am often amazed by the total lack of simple good manners and courtesy shown to me in e-mails by prospective clients, eager submissives and desperate slave. These are people who wish me to pay them some attention and yet this is a sample of an actual email I recently received;

“I need a very hard spanking in frost of every one please E mail me @ ………. “
(I have removed the address to avoid embarrassing the sender)

That was the total extent of the communication. No greeting, No name given. What can anyone sending such an email hope to gain?

Here is another example;

“I want to serve you. I want to lick your boots and be owned by you. I am willing to relocate. I want to be a total slave.”

Again, there is no greeting, no name, no respect shown, no graciousness no consideration shown. Again I ask the question, what can anyone sending such an email hope to gain.

In both cases they gain NOTHING. The delete button is my friend and I do not hesitate to use it.

A word to the wise. I don’t mind if your emails are not highly eloquent, I don’t mind if English is not your first language and so your grammar is not all it could be, but I do mind when people writing to me do not put a greeting on there emails, EG Dear Mistress Strict
I do mind when they fail to sign a name in closing.
I do mind when they fail to spell check their letters.
I do mind when they fail to use the subject line.

A further suggestion:-
When writing to a Domme seeking to be accepted into her service, do not make your correspondence all about YOU. Rather, write explaining why you would be of great service to the lady. List your skills explaining how they would benefit her. Make sure your focus is on the Mistress and NOT on yourself.

Be polite,
Be respectful and
Be considerate.

Making Mistress Laugh

One of my sweet slaves, took it upon himself to make my day a little more pleasant by sharing some jokes with me. One in particular made me laugh out loud, so I thought I would share his good work with you all.

A married couple, in their early 60s, was celebrating their 32nd wedding anniversary at a quiet, romantic little restaurant.Suddenly, a tiny beautiful Fairy appeared on their table.She said: 'For being such an exemplary married couple and especially this time, I will grant you each a wish.''Oh, said the wife, I want to travel around the World with my darling husband' .The fairy waved her magic wand ; and - poof! - two tickets for the Queen Elizabeth II luxury liner and ten thousand dollars appeared in her hands.Then it was the husband's turn.He thought for a minute and said: 'Well, this is all very romantic, but an opportunity like this will never come again. So I'm going with my mind and not my heart'.I'm sorry my love, but my wish is to have a wife 30 years younger than me.The wife and the Fairy were shocked and disappointed. But a wish is a wish.So, the Fairy waved her magic wand, and - Poof! the husband became 92 years old.
The Moral of the story: Men who can be ungrateful bastards should remember: Fairies are Female.

He also sent his image, which I also liked ALOT!!!

Service to your Mistress can take many forms, there are of course the 'classics', the foot rub, the massage, the preparation of a special meal, but service can to many many different forms. Lightening the load with a laugh is a wonderful form of service.

Think about your Mistress, how can you lighten her load? What can you do, without being asked, without expecting a reward, what can you do to make her life more pleasant?

Why not go and do it?

Mistress Strict

Orgasm Denial

It is not uncommon for subs and their Dommes to report that the submissive loses the compelling desire to serve and obey after they have been granted the privilege to reaching orgasm. One obvious solution to this problem is the complete denial of the right to orgasm; however, studies show that for good prostate health, a male should ejaculate at least once every two weeks. No Domme wants her boy to risk his health, so the solution is prostate milking or massage.

Massaging the prostate forces seminal fluid and sperm past the valves in the ejaculatory ducts, and empty the prostate (which discharges directly into the urethra). If there is no stimulation given to the penis for a brief time before the prostate massage begins, draining of the ejaculate into the urethra will not trigger orgasm. Once ejaculate appears, it will help to empty the urethra by running a finger firmly up the underside of the penis from the root to the head, pushing the ejaculate in front of it.

Once a sufficient amount of ejaculatory fluid has been drained, insufficient fluid pressure to trigger the ejaculatory reflex will remain, and no amount of penile stimulation will result in orgasm until the fluid glands are recharged. This may take several hours to several days.

How long to go between milkings will have to be gauged by experiment. A particularly effective way of increasing an orgasm deprived male's sense of sexual frustration and thus his desire to serve and please Mistress between prostate milkings is to you’re your boy masturbate himself once a day every day to just short of orgasm, then install him into a chastity device.

Enjoy these wicked thoughts.
Mistress Strict

Strict Weight loss

Congratulations to my sissy girl Michelle

After months of work. After months of dedication and sweat Michelle has at last reached her goal weight and she looks FABULOUS. I am so proud of my Michelle for all the work she has done.

Changing her body shape was a goal she had asked me to assist her with as part of her distance sissy training. When she started with me she was only just able to squeeze into a size 20 skirt. Now she is looking so lady like and lovely in a new size 16 shape. She now has an excuse to buy a whole new wardrobe of clothes. What sissy wouldn't love that. I'd love to be able to post a pic of her with her new look, but unfortunately (as many of you will understand, she is a little 'shy')

Master Jay a wonderfully skilled Dom and personal trainer is a dear friend of mine and he designed a diet and exercise program for Michelle. Every week she would weigh and measure herself for us. Even though she is in North America and I am here in Australia, she was constantly monitored and her progress reviewed. The Internet offers so many amazing tools.

Thank you Master Jay for your dedication and skill. Michelle has reached her goal and I couldn't be more proud.

Well done my girl. Keep up the GREAT work.

Domination is everywhere

Isn't it wonderful that Domination can be found just about anywhere these days. Just yesterday I was reading a ‘children’s book’ that had one of the best role model characters for young women I have come across in a long time. Let me share,

“She was vivid and passionate, with large black eyes, it was said that he had
been her lover. She wore heavy gold earrings and a crown on her black
curly hair ringed with the fangs of snow tigers. Serafin had learned that
she had killed the tigers herself in order to punish the Tartar tribe who
worshiped them, because the tribesmen had failed to do her honour when she had
visited their territory. Without their tiger gods, the tribe declined into
fear and melancholy and begged her to allow them to worship her instead, only to
be rejected with contempt. What good would their worship do her? It
had done nothing for the tigers. Such was she; beautiful, proud and
pitiless.”

Now there is a woman any little girl would aspire to be.

At long last, I'm BACK to Blogging

Well, at last I am settled back at home and I can turn my attention once again to my much neglected blog. Sigh, Mistress has been out and about and away for so long, but fear not, I am back now with so much news to share.

Technology really has done amazing things for the art of Domination.

As you may or may not be aware, I have been on vacation. I have had a delightful time, but I have not been neglecting my wards. My subbie charges have been disciplines and praised trained and torments by me with the aid of technology.

There are so many wonderfully devious devices these days that can be used to keep a boy chaste. So many ways of checking up n a sissy to ensure she is doing as she has been told. The ability to dial into another’s computer, to take control of it and check their surfing history, all while being, on a beach on the other side of the world.

Technology certainly has given the Domme new freedom of expression. New ways of controlling her charges. New ways of monitoring behaviour. I adore taking control of the world of boys living as far afield in Wellington, New Zealand and Ontario in Canada. I love learning the differences in the kinky thoughts of boys and girls from across the planet. It is wonderful.

My stable of charges expands and contract all the time, I am happy to invite new sissies into service and very happy when I can pass on a fully trained one to a deserving Mistress. It really is so very rewarding.

I am a lucky and deserving Domme.

Let me know about your kink, Mistress always enjoys the devotion of a new boy or girl. I welcome applications from those with little or no experience and those who are highly skilled.

The saddest thing in all the world is a subbie alone. Train with me and become worthy to serve.

Catching up on News

Well, little ones,

There has been so much that has happened since I have been "off the air" for the past few weeks with ISP trouble. So let me catch you up.

Firstly, and most excitingly (ooops, is that a word?) one of my girls, one of my distance training sissy girls (jennie from Hull in the UK) has been accepted by my dear friend Mistress Ava as her personal maid.

I am so excited for them both. jennie has been training with me for some time. She has been diligent and dedicated. Once she reached a level that I found acceptable, I was confident to make an introduction for her to my long standing friend Mistress Ava. When I use to live in England, Mistress Ava and I would terrorize the south East, LOL . Now she has 'settled down' in York and mentioned that she was in need of a personal maid. I made a tentative introduction, they met, and I am happy to report that things have worked out for them both better than I could have hoped. They are even talking about a live in position!!! I am so proud of jennie and happy for Mistress Ava. She deserves only the best and I am proud so say that with her dedication and efficient manner, jennie is becoming one of the best.

I am so very happy and proud. Over time I would love to find happy homes for all my girls in training. I have thought many times of starting a 'Match Makers service' for sissy girls. maybe one day, I'll find the time. happy sigh. A Dommes job is never done.

your,
Mistress Strict

Greetings little ones.

Well, it has been an interesting holiday break for me. I hope you festive season has been a positive one, with lots of wicked toys being placed under your tree. Perhaps you have been bad and got a well deserved thrashing with holly leaves. (Oh my how prickly they are.)

Mistress has been off line for some time. My ISP has had a break down. It is STILL not working properly. I have had to resort to DIAL UP, oh can you belief it. How primitive!!!. One does not realize how many times each day one turns to the internet for assistance until you have been cut off from it.

I ask that you all be patient. I have a mountain of emails to go through. All who deserve one WILL get a reply, it just might take some time.

Donation to the ‘Get Mistress Strict a new computer and ISP’ will be graciously accepted. Email me direct for details on how to make your donations. :-)

Be well little ones,
Mistress will have more exciting news and views posted for you very soon.

For now, why not visir my site, www.strict.com.au and check out what's new there.

technical difficulty

Greetings little ones,

Apologizes, but Mistress Strict is off the air temporarily as my ISP (Bigpond GRRRRRRRRR) is having some exchange problems in my area and I am waiting on a site visit from one of their geeks. oh well.

As soon as things are back on track, I will tell you all about my lovely Christmas new year holiday.

Be wicked

Mistress Strict

Bare bottom spanking

Dear ones,

Is there anything more intimate, more erotic or more sensual than a good old fashioned bare bottomed spanking? Turing my boy over my knee, feeling his weight settle over my knees, feeling is breathe quicken, the warmth of his skin. My hand rubbing gently over his bare arse. The shiver of anticipation before my flat palm is brought down hard and fast across the exposed flesh.

I delight in seeing the rosey red colour rise, the first stroke producing pink finger marks, the more strokes the deeper the colour. The skin under my hand warms the more stroke I apply.

The moan of a boy as I rake my nails over his tender bottom. Oh the joy and delight a bare bottom spanking brings.

it isn't easy

Dear ones,

I have a number of sissy girls doing distance training with me. I am proud of them all. They work hard, doing their very best to complete the lessons I give them. Thy learn to walk, talk, sit, curtsy, kneel, serve and most importantly obey! It is NOT easy being a sissy and distance training really tests a girls commitment and dedication. The lessons I set are individualized to each girls level of experience and personal circumstances, but still from time to time each one will find it hard if not impossible to complete a given task.

Having failed to complete a task the true test of a distance trainee is to accept the punishment given (if there is one,) and continue to move forward. It is all to easy to give up. A true sissy would never do that. Times of self doubt are natural, but giving up is not the way to move forward. Accepting that from time to time we all fail and using that failure as a learning tool is the ideal.

A sissy must be dedicated. I am proud of all my girls, because they trust in me, they give their all to their lessons and they are beauties, every one.

Torment

Bound and helpless.
That is how I like to see a man. Unable to escape, ready to serve me. I light a candle and sit back, my heel resting in the back of his neck and I allow the candle wax to drip onto his back. His body tenses and the heat of the wax caresses his skin. Anticipation, waiting. When the next drop falls it catches him be surprise. He strains, trying it seems to hear the drop falling, hoping to prepare his body for its kiss.

Again and again. My pleasure toy. Taking my pain.

Bondage with a twist

Just the other day, I had the most amusing bondage session with a relatively new client.

Over the years, he had visited many professional Dommes, he had visited many local dungeons and would often indulge his passion for bondage when he was interstate and overseas on business. He had the feel of a ‘been there done that’ kind of gentleman. He expected nothing out of the ordinary. He wanted a bondage session. He wanted to be held, exposed, taunted and teased. He wanted it to be ‘real’, secure, he wanted to be unable to escape no matter how he tried and struggled.

It was with much satisfaction that I listened to his enthusiastic feedback at the conclusion of our session. He gushed about how he had never experienced a session that had left him feeling so ‘alive’. He fervently expressed his desire to experience this type of session again.

WHY WAS THE SESSION Soooo DIFFERENT?

Most dungeons are located in easy to reach central city districts, in industrial areas or inner city suburbs. Session are held in atmospherically lit rooms, themed rooms with candles, rich looking fabrics, stone walls or medical rooms. For his session, I took him into my largest play space. The Australian bush. My studio is located on a secluded private retreat, with plenty of bushland and privacy.

He was bound and helpless, spread eagled between two unyielding gum trees. Mother nature was at her most wicked best, the harsh sun licked at his tender exposed skin, he was indeed vulnerable and exposed. Blindfolded he knew nothing of his location. He could feel the wind on his face, the sweat trickling down his chest, he was helpless, at the mercy of mother nature, her biting insect hoards and me. The more he struggled against the bonds, the more he sweated, the more the insects bothered him.

I enjoyed the session very mush because for me, there is nothing better that making a session, REAL.

House Slave

Greetings little ones,

Well Mistress has been keeping VERY busy, clients, clients and more clients. What a delightful change to have a house slave all for my very own.

My house slave did my bidding, from morning until evening he was there just for my use. I clean and pamper ME. My feet were tended in the most delicious manner imaginable, peppermint foot balm, massaged and pampered. Oh my how delightful it is to have someone dedicated to MY pleasure.

Chores were done without fuss. Supervision was a joy not a chore for me. Watching my house slave clean and scrub on her knees, with the same level of dedication he showed to massaging my feet as to cleaning the floor. I was so proud and pleased with the house slaves focus.

EVERYTHING was about making my life easier. When I had another client, my house slave waited bound in the corn of my studio. Not struggling, not moaning, not seeking my attention. He showed that he honoured the process, respected the needs of my other client and most importantly respected ME.

Having a house slave to do my bidding is a truly wonderful treat. I do hope there are more dedicated slaves out there for me to use, tease and appreciate