Saturday 29 September 2007

taking him further

Greetings little ones,

The other day, I had a beautiful bondage session with a quite experienced subbie boy. He was eager to test and stretch his limits and it was my pleasure to assist him in that quest.

The boy had experienced many forms of bondage, ropes and chains where familiar to him, he had not however, ever experienced mummification. Many find the form of bondage very challenging. Panic attacks can happen if the sub is not monitored with care.

Once mummified, the boy slipped down into sub space and found that amazing place of peace and calm. For a time he was able to 'float' in that space, but he then began to experience anxiety. He began to sweat and found his breathing had become shallow. Soft words and reassuring hands helped him beat the panic demons and find his inner calm.

He went far further than he thought he could. He was gently push past what he thought was his limit. At the end of the session, he lay curled by my feet relaxed and deeply peaceful. It is a beautiful thing to see. I was so proud of him. He trusted enough to go beyond!
THAT is true submission.

Monday 17 September 2007

Mistress NOT mind reader

Greetings little ones

Are you able to articulate what it is that you desire? Do you know what it is that turns you on? What is it that excites you? What is YOUR fetish?

One of the wonderful things about this world of ours little ones, is that EVERYONE is different. We all have different likes and dislikes. What turns YOU on might be a massive turn OFF for someone else. When you visit a Mistress or when you are exploring with a new partner, it is VITAL that you feel comfortable enough to really be honest about what it is that you enjoy, AND equally important it is important to say what is a turn OFF.

A Mistress may have insights, a Mistress can tell much from a clients behaviour, BUT I know of none who are mind readers. Speak up and be honest with your Mistress. This is YOUR responsibility, if she doesn't know she can't act. Help her to know you better. She will gain more from a session if you do as she will know how best to push and punish you. You will gain more. and, you will both be happier.

Monday 10 September 2007

An honour

Recently I had the great honour of giving an instructional session to a Dominant lady who was totally new to the lifestyle and her boy. It was a genuine privilege and pleasure to work with this couple. The respect that they showed each other as they entered into what was a unusual experience for tribute to them both. He was an experienced submissive and pain slut, she was new to the lifestyle, although clearly NOT new to being a powerful and in control young lady.

To say that she took to it like “a duck to water”, would be an under statement. There were many aspects to this encounter that pleased me enormously.

Firstly, here was a young lady who was new to the lifestyle, but who was willing (if not eager) to embrace all that it can offer her. She showed great courage in her willingness to say, those VERY scary words, “I don’t know, please teach me.” That showed wonderful maturity and self awareness. NOT everyone who wants to enter this lifestyle is so wise.

The damage that can be caused by lack of knowledge is immense. Realizing that, this lovely lady sort out a teacher, placed herself in a position of vulnerability and asked for help. I admire and respect her greatly for doing so.

As we slowly worked though some basic aspects of bondage and discipline, she and her partner asked intelligent questions. She tried things out. Tested her limits and frankly, she blossomed!!

It was such a delight to see the GRIN that she wore as she left my studio to take her boy home to practice on.

More about this wonderful session later

Be good little ones

Mistress Strict

Monday 3 September 2007

the need for advice!!

Goodness me!!!

I had not realized how many of you out there were longing to ask Mistress a question. How many of you needed the advice of an experienced and approachable Domme.

I can’t possibly reply on line to ALL the emails you have sent, but I will try to pick some common themes and address them in future posts.

Please don’t hesitate to contact me, I am happy to assist where I can, BUT, little ones, IF you are rude, if your question lacks appropriate thought and/or if you fail to have the common courtesy to address me by name and sign your email then DON’T expect a reply. YOUR email will join the many others in the trash folder.


Mistress Stirct

Saturday 1 September 2007

Agony

I got this email from a sissy I know the other day. I thought that it might be valuable for others to read her letter and my reply.

Dear Mistress Strict,

My Mistress has told me she will be playing
with another subbie/maid. I feel intense jealousy that her
attention will be directed to someone else. How do I overcome my envy and be
happy for her?

Signed
A greedy slut.


I replied:


Dear one,
Wagging my finger at you!
Attitude attitude attitude!! You are committing one of the cardinal sins of submission, you are focused not on what your Domme wants, but on what you want. Wicked child!!

Think for a moment what it would be like not you have your Goddess in your life at all. That she chooses to play with others is her right. Jealousy is a very unattractive quality and is one of the fastest ways that I know of to poison a relationship.

Focus on your Mistresses needs and not your own and feelings of jealousy disappear. . This is a glass half full and not half empty situation. Your mistress chooses to be with you. Celebrate that fact.

Mistress Strict